Celibate Saturday

DISCLAIMER: this post could border line too much information or a little risqué for your taste. If that's the case feel free to check back tomorrow for a new blog post a little less about sex.





I touched a little bit upon my favorite subject yesterday.... Sexting. For those of you who know me know that I will talk about anything and everything including sex. It's not one of those things that I find to be extremely private or feel like I have to hide from the world. Let's face it almost everyone has sex, so why would I be ashamed to talk about it? But I completely understand that not everyone thinks that way, for some it is extremely intimate and personal and something they in no way feel comfortable to talk about. Which is fine, and then there are the other girls only feel comfortable talking it through with their closest girlfriends, well you tell them everything right? And then there's me over here, who if you start the right conversation will tell you anything you want to know. 

I wasn't always like that though. It was like an evolution in life: you start out with the bad sex that you think is good, just because there is no comparison. That's the sex no one wants to talk about unless you are just saying yay we have sex. Then over time you progress into better sex with different sex partners. Sexual evolution takes over, you're willing to try new things and explore different options, sex is better than ever. That's the kind of sex that you describe to your girlfriends.  You've reached the point that you are comfortable talking about positions and details. You start to feel like you truly know what you're doing. And there's the point in your life when you know what you want, and what you like and if you're confident and outgoing you'll talk about it if the right person asks. (I say right person because you're not going to tell every creeper on the street) 

Now everyone by now knows that I have made my way into the online dating world. That does come without its own group of creepers/ overly forward guys. Most of them all ask the same questions: what are you wearing? Why haven't we had sex yet? Let's bang? What are you doing tonight, I hope it involves my bed? Most of the time unless I'm really bored I won't answer any of those questions. Let's face talking about my clothes, my underwear, or lack there of doesn't really come off as sexy. Descriptions unless you are a smutty romance novelist doesn't do it for me. Now 9 out of 10 times if you were to respond to these questions you would end up with a standard answer of oh that's hot! Really makes you want to put in the work and be creative huh? Then there's the other three sets of questions about when we are going to have sex. I get your just trying to get laid, but there are clearly better ways to do it, and here's a hint those questions are probably the reason you aren't getting laid....

<----Exhibit A would be this lovely conversation: so I got this message a couple weeks ago, and he caught me at a point when I was cranky tired. So I had a little snarky response. But after my witty comebacks I decided to take a chance and ask him if that line ever worked? His response at first was that it was his first time trying this line. Just a reminder I was snarky tired of course I responded with I'm more likely to believe that you are a virgin than that you've never tried that line before. That little zinger, apparently worked its magic... It wasn't his first time and he had never actually had it work. So I let him on a little secret, you want talk about sex just be honest about sex. 

There's something that is extremely sexy about talking about sex! Not talking dirty, oh put that there, smack me... Blah blah blah. That all has a time and place, but actually talking about sex. Some of the best sex conversations are talking about what you like and how you like. Why can't a sex conversation start off with where's the most public place you've had sex? There are points awarded for creativity, most likely it would end up with an actual intriguing conversation about sex. And I could be completely wrong, but at least to me talking about sex is way sexier than any fake Sexting. Those are the conversations that you carry on for hours and can be completely turned on because it's talking about what you know, your sex history and preferences. Who doesn't want to hear about how you actually like it or how you want it. But hey that's just me! I know that I am an extremely secure and forward person who doesn't represent a majority of the female population. I get told that all the time, " you really aren't like any other girl". But that's the way I like it.